Question:
Dear GIPP ~
I love reading the Astroabby Advice columns and I wonder if I can ask you a question . . . I'm really curious about my job situation and my future!! I'm a Scorpio (10/25/61) and have been in a wonderful relationship with a Cancer (7/8/60) for almost 10 years now. We moved here to Indiana two years ago for my "Great Job," which has become "not-so-great" as things have changed. I'm thinking of investigating other jobs back in the southeast part of the country from whence we came. I've got a daughter (10/5/88) ready to start college next year, a son (9/6/90) in 10th grade, and a son (8/2/93) in 7th. I don't want to uproot them again if it's going to cause havoc, but I feel like "going home" is what I want to do. Any advice would be marvelous!!! Thanks, Suzanne
Answer:
Alice came to a fork in the road.
“Which road do I take?” she asked.
“Where do you want to go?” responded the Cheshire cat.
“I don’t know,” Alice answered.
“Then,” said the cat, “ it doesn’t matter.”
Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Metaphysical GIPP responds: Hello Suzannabanana!
We sometimes struggle with the question of which road we should take next.
As parents, we don’t want to wreak havoc in our children’s lives. I understand that you want to make decisions that will ultimately be best for the whole family unit.
Am I coming or going?
Do you want to move away from where you are? Or, do you want to move towards that other place? There is a difference. Remember how the Law of Attraction works: Whatever we give the most thought to will expand. If you keep concentrating on where you don’t want to be, you’ll continue creating that situation. So, be sure to think about the excitement of going home, versus the running away from a “not-so-great” job.
Let’s take the road that leads to where we want to go!
Expiration Dates
I know you aren’t a carton of milk! But, what if you found out you had a limited time left to live? It may seem a harsh question, but it is one of the quickest ways to get to the root of what we really want.
Pretend you’ve been given an expiry date. Where do you see yourself living? What will you be doing?
If you really do want to go home, but the holdback factor here is the kids and the havoc-wreaking potential, you’ll have to ask yourself why.
Ask yourself: What has to happen for me to confidently start making plans to move?
Make sure you are in a state of calm when you do this. Relax and trust that the answer will come. There is a connection with our receiving what we desire and feeling good.
The better we feel, the sooner things manifest in our lives. Don’t worry about not having all the answers right away. Just keep asking!
In my world…
I seem to remember a commercial on television that showed a woman daydreaming about how her vacation would be ‘in her world’. Your imagination holds the key to your highest thoughts. Why fight your ego? It doesn’t just want to move back home and live happily ever after. Your ego won’t stop desiring… it wants the whole shebang! So, to get your ego to quiet down long enough to focus on your desires, try this. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Over the left column you can write: In the Real world. On the right hand side, write: In my world.
On the left, you might have something like this: In the Real World I worry that my kids will have trouble adjusting to another move and won’t make any friends and will blame me for everything that has ever gone wrong on the planet earth since the beginning of man. Then, moving over to the right side of the paper, you start with ‘In my world’ and create as perfect a scenario as your imagination can provide.
This is a lot of fun!
You’ll be surprised at how many wonderful things you can bring into your real world by focusing on your imaginary side.
Out to Lunch
Have you taken yourself out to lunch, yet? You’ve likely heard of being your own best friend. It helps to step outside our own limitations and personal fears. We can think more freely and speak from our creative core.
Find a quiet place to be your own best friend. Remember - you want only the very best for this person! I know you’ve got great ideas and helpful suggestions for your best friend.
Living life to the fullest is the greatest gift you can give to others. Living a rich and happy life is a great way to show our children how to live.
Suzannabanana, don’t be afraid to live your best life. Whatever we do that comes from a place of love will have a good end result.
xoxo
Giraffeinpurplepyjamas~
Question:
Dear Ms. GIPP,
I'm a big fan of Ms. Walther's site and I enjoy your column very much and how you approach problems and advise those who write you.
Perhaps you might be able to advise me. I'm a 38 year old Aquarian (Cap rising, moon, Venus; Pisces in Saturn, Mars, Mercury; Gemini in Jupiter; Uranus & Pluto in Virgo; Scorpio in Neptune). I feel a bit stuck as to what to do with myself. As a last ditch thought,
I am considering whether to move from NYC to the Northwest to start over, really just because why not, but also only semi-seriously at the moment. I nearly moved 8 years ago to California but I got a good job out of the blue right before I was supposed to leave and I saw that as sign I should stay in the city. However, that job only lasted 6 months and by then the wind in my sails to move had been knocked out. Since then I haven't been able to really make it click here. I like the city and what it has to offer and I've been able to make and keep friends over the years, though with a lot of turnover. However, I haven't been able to keep a job or keep a relationship for very long. I have held some good jobs over the years for varying lengths of time, but they always blow up somehow, or actually just sort of end abruptly with a "not working out/not great fit" conversation. The same goes with my relationships, though they don't really last past a few weeks usually.
I am now in a situation where I have been unemployed for nearly a year and the longest relationship I've had in the last five years, which lasted just over two months only, just ended. I'm very sad about it although it ended for foreseeable reasons I suppose, in that he was ten years younger than me, and he suspected I might have been getting too close to him when he couldn't promise anything, which I guess was true. I would have liked it to continue longer, even though I saw it wasn't a forever thing (though admittedly I had hopes), and I can say the same about most of my jobs.
Since I left my job I got a lot of informational interviews for great jobs, but without anything coming from it. Over the years I have had a lot of first dates, but rarely have they gone beyond that or a couple weeks. In fact recently I had a wonderful first date but he declared at the end of it we couldn't continue because he lived in another city. I don't understand since he knew this when he asked me out! I also now have some recruiters working for me, some people who want to speak to me about jobs, as well as a couple of people who might want to meet me socially, what with the internet dating thing which I just rejoined. I am not excited about any of these possibilities, nor am I especially confident they will lead anywhere.
I've been at this too long and I wonder what's going on. The losses and rejections hurt, and it doesn't get easier with time, I don't get used to getting them. Any suggestions? Is it my approach? My city? Should I try somewhere new? Something new? Any advice would be much appreciated! ~Debbie~
Answer:
Metaphysical GIPP responds~ When I read your letter I started thinking about neckties. They come in all colours and patterns. A new necktie with a snazzy pattern can really add some new life to an old suit.
Now, maybe you are THINKING that my IMAGINATION has got the better of me and that in my ENTHUSIAM for the TIE I’ve forgotten that it’s usually the menz that wear them? (When you write to a giraffe wearing purple pyjamas you’ll just have to expect this sort of thing.)
TIE is going to be a code word that I am hoping will help you to bring about some wonderful changes in your life. We’ll get back to our retail therapy in a minute.
I’ve been reading about silly laws in certain parts of the world.
Did you know it is a law in California that ‘No vehicle without a driver may exceed 60 miles per hour’? There are, of course, more serious laws. We understand why some important laws are needed and we trust that they are for our greater good. I want to tell you about a perfect law! It’s a natural law and it’s irresistible. Just like the law of Gravity, it doesn’t vary.
It’s the natural law of Attraction. It works perfectly every time and all the time.
Just like you don’t need to know how electricity works to turn on the lights, you really don’t need to know all about quantum physics to know how the law of Attraction works.
KNOW that it works and has been working perfectly in your life.
(Right now you are probably thinking I read someone else’s letter because you don’t think there is anything perfect about your life right now. Wait! I haven’t explained something about the law of Attraction that some people don’t realize.
The law of Attraction will attract whatever you focus your thoughts on…even if it’s something you don’t want! So, if you we are focusing our thoughts on something we don’t want we set into motion the vibrations that will attract the very thing we were trying to avoid. This can become a vicious circle. We get in a rut, where life just keeps happening to us.
We weren’t made this way! Our Creator made us in His image. That means we are mini-creators. And what, pray tell are we supposed to create? A life based on what we WANT! A life filled with abundance and joy and love.
So, how can something that sounds so simple be so difficult for us, at times? For years at a time, even?
I think a lot of it has to do with a belief in our society that the way to get rid of what we don’t want is to fight it with all our might and RESIST to the end! So, if we RESIST what we don’t want we’ll get what we do want, right? Nooooooooo. Whatever we RESIST will only PERSIST. By continuing to worry about not finding a lasting relationship we continue to be not able to find a lasting relationship because we are going towards what we DON’T want (or at least our thoughts are) instead of going towards what we do want.
Debster, you have worked so hard in defense of being rejected that it continues to be your experience. In other words, you’ve struggled so hard AGAINST what you don’t want that it just keeps on coming. A lot of your energy has been spent on ‘don’t wants’. Sadly, what happens after doing that for a long time is you get tired, for sure! You can also lose track of what you DO want, because all your energy has been used up in RESISTANCE.
So, there’s only one thing to do, now. Shop! Let’s go pick out the wildest, most colourful TIE you’ve ever seen.
THINKING- Your letter showed me that you are a visionary! You ‘saw’ getting a job out of the blue as a sign; your recent break-up was ‘foreseeable’; you ‘saw’ that this relationship and most of your jobs were not forever things.
Being able to see what you think up is a great gift of God! This gift will help you visualize what you DO want to create in your life. Think about what you want to do for a living…what you really, really want to do. Think it, allow it (none of that pesky resistance, here) and the law of Attraction goes to work right away to get it for you.
IMAGINATION- Again, use those visionary skills of yours to dream up the most awesome things! Go bananas! Imagination is the key to creating. The computer you are reading this on had to be imagined before it could be. I’ll bet you can envision remarkable, lasting things for yourself.
ENTHUSIASM- Ever noticed that when one person gets all fired up about an idea it tends to be catching? It’s also one of the main things an employer looks for in an interview! People seem to just know that when someone is enthusiastic, it means they feel good about what they are doing. Feeling good is a very non-resistant thing, too!
So, how do you like your tie? Snazzy, or what?
Here’s a fun thing you can do to get your imagination going. Try playing the ‘What if’ game. You play it in your mind and it goes like this:
What if pigs really could fly? What if I was the only person in the whole wide world that they would let fly on their backs? What if I flew a pig all the way to California? What if I landed in California and met a farmer who really wanted a wife…and a flying pig?
The ‘What if’ game is a favourite of mine and always puts a smile on my face. I hope you will try it!
What if you went tie shopping one day with a giraffe who would love you to have the life of your dreams?
xoxo
giraffeinpurplepyjamas~
